Showing posts with label contentment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label contentment. Show all posts

Sunday, August 26, 2018

Contentment in Material Things Yields Happiness: 21 Benefits


Contentment in Material Things Yields Happiness: 21 Benefits                                                           

The first murder ever to be committed in the history of Mankind occurred because of jealousy. Interestingly, the meaning of the murder’s name was, “to acquire/to get.” 

That man was Cain, the firstborn son of Adam and Eve. He killed his brother, Abel, because of jealousy over Abel’s good standing with God. Before committing his evil act, God saw Cain’s envious heart and offered to forgive and restore him. But Cain was so enraged he rejected God’s mercy and wisdom and slaughtered his brother. You can read this entire account in Genesis 4:1-17.

Cain’s life is an example of jealousy to the extreme. We can apply his story to man’s desire to acquire material things and the jealousy which often results from not having something our neighbor has or something the lovely smiling person in the advertisement is enjoying.  

By Connie Wohlford
Sadly, too many people’s lives are defined by the feverish acquisition of things. They simply cannot be content with having basic needs met along with a few frills added in just for fun. 

In today’s culture, it appears that many people have a problem with differentiating between needs and wants. 

Needs consist of things required to maintain life—food, water, clothing and shelter. Granted, in order to maintain needs a job is required which may call for transportation, tools, a phone, and possibly a computer. But even these necessities don’t have to be top of the line or excessive.

Wants consist of things we desire to have but are not necessary to maintain life. When shopping, I often ask myself, “Can I live without this item?” If the answer is, “Yes,” I will often not make the purchase. This has saved me from spending many dollars on things which, in the grand scheme of things, would have been unwise use of my money. 

The Bible gives wise counsel on the subject: “Now godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content. But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. But you, O man of God, flee these things and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, gentleness” (1 Timothy 6:6-11 NKJV).

Consider the immense truth of verse 6, that “godliness with contentment is great gain.”

Godliness is sincere faith in and devotion to God. Contentment is being in a state of fulfillment and satisfaction despite circumstances. Put these two attributes together and you find a person who trusts God in all matters, is continually joyful, and takes adversity in stride. This person’s countenance is always pleasant. They don’t complain and are desirable to be around. This person is a giver, not a taker. I want this person for my friend. Though I often fall short, I want to be this person. 

This is a powerful person. The “great gain” Paul refers to will have no limit in benefits. To name a few, this person will: 

1.     have more peace of mind.
2.     acquire wealth instead if debt.
3.     not be a slave to the lender (Proverbs 22:7).
4.     be free from the bondage of interests cutting into their resources.
5.     not be jealous of others over material things (Exodus 20:17).
6.     have fewer arguments with their spouse over finances.
7.     set a good example for their children and others.
8.     have fewer disagreements about money with their children.
9.     have money available to help others in need.
10. have money to give to the building of God’s Eternal Kingdom.
11. stress less.
12. be healthier because of less stress.
13. be more pleasant to be around.
14. not be given to complaining or criticism.
15. be more desirable as a friend.
16. be more desirable as a lifelong mate.
17. be less likely to take on a victim mentality.
18. spend less time and frustration shopping, returning, maintaining, and dealing with material things.
19. build strength of character in the ability to say, “no.”
20. not stray from the faith in greediness (v10).
21. be less likely to fall into the snare of the temptation of foolish and harmful lusts which drown man in destruction and perdition (damnation) (v9).

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This list of benefits of godliness with contentment could continue on and on. What are others you can think of? 

The Apostle Paul, who overcame many trials, wrote: “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through Him who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:11b-13 NIV). Paul was in jail when he wrote these words.

Paul gave credit to God for giving him strength to do all things. We too can do all things God calls us to and we can avoid doing all things he calls us to not do. God calls us to be content and with the help of His Spirit in us, we can do this. 

Like Paul, we can be content in all circumstances because we can trust God to meet our needs and to never leave us nor forsake us (Deuteronomy 31:6, Hebrews 13:5).

The Mighty One—the Lord our God—is all powerful and bestows power on His children. Because of Him we can be content and have, in ourselves, the power of contentment.

Let’s pray: Holy Father, I know You are all powerful, that You love me with unfailing love, and that You want what’s best for me in all situations. Please help me to know the difference between my needs and my wants and to trust You for the necessities in my life. Help me to be like Paul and be content in all circumstances. I praise You and thank You, in Jesus name—Amen.  

©Copyright 2018 Connie Wohlford

Sunday, January 28, 2018

Fill Your New Year With Optimism - Seven Strategies to Attain Optimism—Part 2



Fill Your New Year With Optimism

Seven Strategies to Attain Optimism—Part 2

Our general outlook plays a large role in the manner in which we step into each moment of every day, either leaning toward pessimism or optimism. Various factors influence our leaning, over which many we can have control. 

In my last post, we looked at the first three of the Seven Strategies to Attain Optimism: 1- Let go of the past. 2- Avoid getting hung up on a negative thing or situation. 3- Remember that, for everyone, life has ups and downs. 

Today we’ll consider the next two:

4-  Watch your mouth.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never harm me.” ─NOT SO!

Have you ever been hurt by words? I certainly have.

A psychotherapist may tell us we have control over our feelings and reactions to words spoken to us. There is some truth there, but tell that to the person who has just heard their spouse say, “I don’t love you anymore. I want a divorce.”

Words can uplift or drag down. They can shed light or confuse; bring stability or knock you on your face; fill you with joy or punch you in the gut.

An article in PsychologyToday.com, titled, “The Most Dangerous Word in the World,” says there’s a word that can literally do damage in a person’s brain. During a brain scan doctors can detect stress-producing hormones and neurotransmitters when a certain word is flashed for less than one second. “These chemicals immediately interrupt the normal functioning of your brain, impairing logic, reason, language processing, and communication.” *

What is that word? It’s “no.”

The article further says that negative words can make an anxious or depressed person feel worse and can affect sleep, appetite and one’s “ability to experience long-term happiness and satisfaction.” *

But we don’t need phycology professionals to enlighten us in this area. God’s Word teaches us much the same thing.

“A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit” (Proverbs 15:4 NKJV).

“Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24).

We must continuously be mindful of our words, whether it be self-talk or directed to others. So much has been taught and written on this subject, we have to wonder why the tongue is still so hard to tame.

James, the brother of Jesus, gives powerful guidance, stating “no man can tame the tongue” and it is “full of deadly poison.” (James 3:1, 12)

We need to ask and rely on the Holy Spirit to help us maintain control over our words on a minute by minute basis. Let’s pray with the psalmist: “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips” (Psalm 141:3).

“I will bless the LORD at all times; his praise will be in my mouth continuously” (Psalm 34:1 NSV).


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Mindfulness in our speech can help attain optimism in ourselves and those with whom we come in contact. When we do so, we honor God and build up ourselves and others.



    5-  Practice Gratitude

“The struggle ends when gratitude begins.” –Neale Douglas Walsh
Let’s chew on that quote for a couple minutes.

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Gratitude will cause optimism to rise up in the spirit of a person. Right now, stop and think of five things for which you’re thankful. Did you know that as you meditate on these things, the production of dopamine and serotonin increases and has a positive effect on your brain?  



Scientific studies show that we literally receive a boost in feelings of well-being as a result of gratitude. Many studies have been performed and articles written about this phenomenon.

There’s no lack of things to be thankful for as followers of Christ and the Bible is full of passages reflecting this truth. If you have much experience in Bible reading and church attendance you can probably bring several to mind without much effort.

The psalms especially extol the glories of the Lord and reasons to be thankful to Him. Thankfulness is an important aspect of worship. As we read through Psalms, we see that praise, worship, and thanksgiving are three pillars in acknowledging God and relating to Him.

Psalm 100 is one of my favorites, especially verses 4 and 5: “Enter into His gates with thanksgiving and into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name. For the Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting, and His truth endures forever to all generations” (NKJV).

In addition to being grateful to God, we need to express gratitude to other people. Any expression of thanks is welcomed by most people. Knowing how we feel when someone expresses gratitude to us, we should liberally convey thanks to others whenever possible. This is one way we can encourage optimism in others while receiving benefits ourselves.

Thanksgiving leads to contentment even when circumstances of life are less than desirable. “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NKJV).

A contented person is a grateful person                  and a grateful person is a contented person.

So, let’s take heart as we meditate on the above Scripture Passages and these forth and fifth of the Seven Strategies to Attain Optimism. Be assured that God wants us to live joy-filled lives, unhindered by pessimistic thoughts and anxieties.

Please check back in a few days to learn more of the strategies. May God richly bless you in your own pathway to attaining Christ-ordained optimism.

Your comments are welcome.

©Copyright 2018 Connie Wohlford